I Have Met The Enemy - And They Is Us.

Real estate has a trust problem. The industry knows it. The data confirms it. And the solution has been sitting in plain sight for decades — waiting for someone generous enough to use it.

"We have met the enemy and he is us." - Walt Kelly  ·  Pogo, 1971

Every few years, a new survey arrives confirming what the public already knows: estate agents rank among the least trusted professionals on the planet. Below politicians. Sometimes below journalists. Occasionally — on a bad polling day — below the used car salespeople that agents themselves love to mock at conferences. The industry reads these findings, expresses concern, and then proceeds to do exactly what it has always done.

More scripts. More certifications. More personal brand photography. More coaches charging £3,000 a day to teach agents how to project confidence they haven't yet earned. More visibility strategies that assume the problem is that people haven't seen enough of you — as though the issue were obscurity rather than character.

None of it works. Not because the people offering it are cynical — many of them are genuinely trying — but because they are treating a character problem as a competence problem. And those are not the same diagnosis.

What the industry keeps reaching for

• Micro-celebrity and personal brand visibility
• Mandatory qualifications and increased regulation
• Scripts that simulate trust rather than build it
• Coaching systems designed for dependency, not liberation
• More volume. More follow-up. More hustle.

None of these are the answer. Not one. They are, at best, a coat of paint on a structural problem. At worst, they deepen the wound — because they signal to consumers, with remarkable clarity, that the industry still does not understand what it did wrong.

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The answer is generosity.

Not generosity as a marketing tactic. Not the manufactured warmth of an agent who sends you a bottle of wine after completion and calls it relationship building. Real generosity. The kind that requires an agent to genuinely want more for their client than from them. To serve the person's interest when it costs something. To give honest advice when a more comfortable answer would have been easier. To refer rather than retain, to simplify rather than mystify, to release a client when holding them would have been more profitable.

This is not naïveté. Generosity is one of the most sophisticated signals a human being can send. It communicates abundance, not scarcity. Transparency, not concealment. Confidence, not insecurity. When you are generous, you are saying — without a single word of it — that you don't need to take from this person because you already have enough, and enough is coming.

"The problem with real estate today is that the generous are not organised — and the organised are not generous." Adapted from Jimmy Breslin

Breslin was writing about politics. He might as well have been writing about property. The structural machinery of the real estate industry — the portals, the franchise networks, the coaching empires, the shareholder-driven corporate agencies — has been built by people extraordinarily good at organising. Targets. Pipelines. KPIs. Fee defence scripts. Systems designed to extract maximum value from every transaction and every agent under their banner.

And the generous? They exist. They always have. Individual agents who give their honest opinion when a dishonest one would have closed the deal. Agents who tell a vendor their asking price is wrong even when the listing is at stake. Agents who hold a buyer's hand through a difficult survey without charging for the hour. They are dotted across the industry like good-faith interruptions in a bad-faith machine. But they are alone. Unrecognised. Sometimes penalised by a business model that confuses generosity with weakness.

The corporate response to all of this is predictable and, in its own terms, coherent. Generosity doesn't scale. Shareholders don't reward it. You can't train it in a two-day induction and you can't measure it on a dashboard. So they do what organisations under profit pressure always do: they systematise what can be systematised and quietly ignore what cannot.

This is not going away. The franchise model, the volume-chasing agency, the high-growth network that recruits on commission splits and retains on dependency — these will exist for as long as there are people willing to participate in them. They are too deeply established, too financially entrenched, and too good at finding agents who don't yet know there's another way.

Which means the question isn't how to change the industry. It's how to leave it behind.

The purple cow doesn't try to blend in and then announce itself. It simply is what it is — visibly, unapologetically different — and it attracts the people who were tired of looking at the herd. The agent who operates from genuine generosity doesn't need the industry to reform. They need to become so clearly distinct from it that the consumer is given a genuine choice. Not a choice between two versions of the same transaction. A choice between a transaction and a relationship. Between someone who wants something from you and someone who wants something for you.

That polarity, once visible, is one of the most powerful things in marketing. You don't have to convince people. You just have to be unmistakably yourself — and trust that the right people will find you.

This begins, as everything begins, with who you are.

Not what you say. Not what you claim on your website or your listing presentation or your market appraisal. Who you actually are — when the deal is difficult, when the commission is at risk, when honesty would cost you and flattery would close it. That's where character lives. That's where trust is either born or denied.

The work is not to adopt generosity as a strategy. It's to allow it. To give yourself permission to lead with what you actually believe rather than what you've been trained to say. Slowly, if slowly is what it takes. Imperfectly, because imperfect generosity is still generosity. One honest conversation at a time. One moment of restraint — choosing not to oversell, not to over-promise, not to manufacture urgency — that you didn't have to show but chose to anyway.

That's how trust is built. Not announced. Not certificated. Not coached. Built — slowly, through repeated acts of choosing the client's interest when your own was easier to serve.

The industry won't thank you for it. It will call you idealistic. It will point to its pipeline and its portfolio and its shareholder return and tell you this is how the world works. It will keep running its scripts and its award ceremonies and its "agent of the year" competitions, and it will keep wondering why nobody trusts them.

Let it.

There are clients — the right clients — who are already exhausted by the alternative. Who have been sold to so many times that the first agent who simply tells them the truth will feel like a revelation. Who will not only work with you once but will send you everyone they know, because they've never encountered anything like you in this industry.

Find them. Serve them. Become unmistakable to them.

We know the answer. We've always known it. We just have to be generous enough to use it.

We can't take everyone with us.

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Originally published on LinkedIn.